turning a corner

I watched last night's Obama Inaugural Celebration with pride and happiness. Such energy and hope and reality and heart. I loved hearing the messages from history intertwined with the music by today's stars. It was inclusive without being annoying. There was room at the table for everyone. The enthusiasm and outpouring was palatable here in my living room in Glasgow. I had the volume up. I sang along. I clapped. I got teary eyed. Shower the People. Higher Ground. This Land is Made for You and Me.

And I know I fled DC when GW was just entering his second ill-fated term. I escaped. I was GLAD to be out of America. I sometimes felt apologetic for being American here in the UK. ("Honest, no one I KNOW voted for him. Either time!")

And watching last night made all my American pride swell up. Especially in my second home of Washington DC -- where I spent 12 of my confused and major adult formative years. I felt a kin-ship of my people.

And weirdly, so did my UK label born and bred husband.

The road will be long. As President Elect Obama thanked the speakers and performers for reminding us, through song and through words, just what it is that we love about America, I too am reminded.

It may be time to come home soon.

small hours

I've gotten into a weird (for me) habit of going to bed late. And NOT being able to fall asleep. Usually I read and then turning off the light and taking my glasses off become achievements WAY too hard to tackle and I fall into a deep pit of slumber with the light on and my glasses in my hand. (as I tell myself, "remember not to roll over on these.")

But since the holidays we've been up staying up late and consequently getting up unreasonably and embarrassingly late for a work week. Alarm ignored. No snooze. Just "off" after it blares.

But one of the great things about lying in bed trying to fall asleep or those moments of breaking into consciously when I wake up is that I keep getting these flashes of clarity. Eyes closed. Fuzzy room. Dark and Blankets. But somewhere in my mind, I am emerging.

I know I have been a particularly absent blogger. One of the reasons is that I didn't have much to say or share. And now in those small hours I am finding, nay, COMPOSING brilliant essays and insights for my blog, for my coaching web site, for client sessions. "Ah... so clear - THAT'S what I want to say!" Wonderful to have the grey matter churning out new information!

Except. Here's the rub. I can almost never remember any of it in the light of sober, caffeinated day. It is as if these glimpses of brilliance are fleeting and wispy. I want to recreate those words, those images and I come up with the big thought bubble over my head ... and it is empty.

Yeah I know what you are thinking, and it is just so unlikely that I will wake up enough to write them down. I don't even want to try that. I just want to love the clear moments I am getting. Like when you are tuning an old radio and get a faint sound of music somewhere in the crackles as you turn the knob. I just want to notice them and enjoy them. And see what sense I can make in my waking hours.

And turn up the volume.

somewhere over the ...

I was on the phone chatting with Lex this morning and I looked outside my office window to see this beauty.

I am still excited and giddy about seeing rainbows. There were rare and often caused by spilled gas on the driveway when I grew up. Here in the UK, they are more frequent, given all the mini weather systems here and high chances for the on-off rain.

So whenever I see them I still feel really lucky. They feel magical and fleeting. And indeed this one was only out for about 5 minutes. And I got to see it.

I guess it reminds me to keep my eyes open for those glimpses of wonder in everything. Look for the beauty and the magic and I will be more likely to find them.

As I head into a new year with clean pages to fill, I want to remember to look for the Wow/Now moments of awe and look at my life with excitement and appreciation.

The pot of gold can't be far away.

greatest hits 2008

Yep- Greatest Hits 2008!
Every year I create a list of my top hits for the year... things or people I discovered, enjoyed, saw, heard, wore, ate -- or anything that made the year memorable. I include trips, foods, friends, memories, accomplishments, and songs -- anything that was the cream of the crop for me. And, I write them down and share them with the people that helped shape my year with my gratitude.

(I have to own up that this list idea originally came from my brother Gary and I have 100% adopted it as my own. So GR Faculjak©!)

Here, in no particular order -- a long list as it was a BIG Year!

• Being sung Happy Birthday by 23 new friends in 4 languages
• 40
• pink fuzzy robe
• Rumi the Sufi poet
• Paris sunshine for Valentines Day
• Indefinite Right to Remain Visa
• UK drivers license
• Let Me Fall
  
• Salma Cafe
• Lupe Pintos supply of Tex Mex staples in a dry country
• Illy coffee
• daily doses of Lexie
• Notes from the Universe
  
• Climb on!
• 14 foot ceilings
• Kelvingrove Park walk
• loving my marriage to Mark
• eyebrow threading
• quiz night at the Liquid Ship
• Life purpose workshop with Hanna in Madison
• Plockton
• Forth Street heartbreak
• home ownership
• 6 transatlantic flights, 1 in fancy class all bringing me to the USA
• Obama
• Life Clubs
• real solid wood furniture and Big Momma Chair
• shifting the space/intending my impact
• Leadership R1, R2, R3 and R4 with the Porcupine Tribe and the Kimsey-Houses
• kitchen radio
• Mother Tree
• DIY Dynamo Mark
• Working fireplace
• Northern California
• Florida sunshine in May with good peeps
• Stay

THANK YOU FOR BEING A PART OF MY 2008!!!

blogging lameness

Yeah. Not much action here lately.

Since I have been back from R4, I realise I have kind of  gone south and AWOL, blogging-wise.

Not sure if it is the sheer delight to be Not Going Anywhere for a while. 

Or completing the Doing Hard Things and Growing as a Leader, which has wonderfully captured my attention for the last 11 months. 

Or maybe since we are still a wondering about the future of Mark's continuity of income.

Or perhaps the easy throwaway updates that Facebook allows. "Carol is ... Not Updating Her Blog with anything substantial since Facebook is to easy and lazy"

But I know. Lame. 

Sometimes when I am avoiding thinking I think I avoid posting because it inevitably forces me to speak my truth. 

So I am postponing  my  Smart Thinking, New Projects, Forward March mentality until the nice 2009.  

Beauty and order. Christmas and cozies. Home and hearth. Visitors and fun.

These are my current priorities. And I hope that from them, from that, the rest will follow.

FIRE!

newly swept

fantasticly smoke free peet and coal burning 

YUM

R4

And yes. I am back from the final retreat for Leadership.
And yes, here's my initial greatest hits for the week.
Expect the impact to come!

• holding multiple screens


• popcorn ... doritos ... cheetos ... twizzlers ... hummus TOSS


• the feast of our quests


• passing the baton


• of course


• creating the colour/intended impact


• silence serving
  


• claim new territory and aliveness
  


• Porcupine Launch Party


• reading the level 3


• Ain't No Mountain High Enough


• Point the conversation


• Gather and gather and gather all the FEAR ... AND STEP


• stake as leader


• Big L leader


• dance in the paradox between action and learning


• raise the bar


• if you aren't stepping through fear you are at small L leadership


• love letters
  


• be orange to create green


• scavenger hunt in the real world


• elders


• if you know how it looks you are following


• celebrate and inspire


• R Fourians
  


• when not on stake you are dying a little


• love tunnel
  


• the grandfather tree (with the sprites)


• change the conversation from fear to possibility
  


• beacons of light


• what takes you out of the model?


• sleevies
  


• locking in the learning for R1, R2, R3 and R4
  


• accountability partners


• when at level 1, you have no stake


• bringing the light
  


• dire consequences


• the keys to our leadership
  


• Pat and Jennifer stepping into coffee and breakfast leadership


• Julie Andrews point


• driving up the mountain


• intention for the tribe


• move from learner to practitioner
  


• falling off and on the model
  


• what's next for me as a leader?
  


• Porcupine flag


• leaving 'launched'


• molecules grounded
  

Notes from the universe

My friend Chole forwarded this note she got from "the Universe"

You can imagine how jealous I was.  After all,  it seems so friendly and direct to get a note from the universe -- instead of my usual vague inference of what you think the universe is telling you. Here in black and white -- actual messages!

So naturally I looked into how I could get in on the deal.  

Indeed, Notes from the Universe is the invention of Mike Dooley, Adventurer and Founder of TUT.com , (Totally Unique Thoughts).  His motto is "Thoughts become things -- make sure they are good ones."  Not a bad notion. 

And when you sign up for the email list, they ask you to take The Oath.  Which given present circumstances (or ANY circumstances) seems to be a pretty smart thing to take on.

Indeed, I pledge YES.

living with uncertainty

I know about control freakery. 

Planning in your head how things "will" go.  And when they don't (which of course they don't) it rocks the core of one's being.  I very much used to live in that awful reality.  Which is not a very easy place to live.  It is uncompromising and rigid. And really not all that practical. 

And over the last 10 years I have had so much practice in letting some of that go.  Of being with what is. Of being with what unexpected surprise shows up. And of being with not knowing.

I look back to the DC days when we lived with the continual and cyclical threat of Mark's having to return to the UK.  Every 6 months for about 3 years we worried and hand wrung.  It absolutely forced me/us to appreciate Today.  Now. This Moment. And This One. And This... 

I have learned to enjoy Not Knowing What's Next.  Hey- life's an adventure, right? And Door Number 3 might be the best one yet!   How exciting! 

I took the leap to leave the comfort of comforts and the constraints of my same same same for 10 years life in DC for 1000% Not Knowing.   Country. Relationship. New Career. And WOW, the gifts that keep on giving on that one. 

We sat through Not Knowing about Mark's BT redundancy.  For months! 

We moved 3 times - each to an entirely new city and even to another country.  Not Knowing.

And in coaching -- myself, others, leadership - - I have really learned that one can prepare - but never *Plan*. (thank you for that lesson, Karen Kimsey House).  It doesn't allow for other stuff to show up.  The unexpected. The rich. The whatever is there. It is a bit of the create from nothing stuff.  It is truth of the moment. 

And now we are again in the pot stewing. What will happen with Mark's job...

Haven't I been practicing? Haven't I gotten the lesson of being loose and waiting for the gift and appreciating the moment of today?  

I wonder what I haven't quite let go of.  What's new here for me to absorb and get.

Because after all those lessons, I was really pretty excited for a little chance to be certain. To Know. And to Plan.  

The world at large feels like they are waiting on tenterhooks with me. (Which I recently learned is not spelled tenderhooks -- which actually feels more appropriate and true to scale.) 

Economies gone a flooey.  Markets utterly turned upside down. Rugs swept from under thousands of feet. 

Lot of uncertainty.  

Yet we wake, we eat, we work, we love, we shop, we plan.  We carry on. 

Not Knowing. 

And what I am now resting my head on are things I am certain about.  And I am finding great comfort in that. 

charmed in Plockton

Just back from 3 days away up in the real highlands... and stayed in quintessentially charming small hamlet called Plockton, which is (apparently) famous for filming Hamish Macbeth. 

Very friendly, stunning beauty, colourful locals and delicious food.  We took a boat trip to see seals, drove through parts of Syke, ate like kings with all the extremely local fish, and took a brisk 5 mile walk which got us soaked.  

An important reminder to breathe and be lost in nature and in each other's good company.

my alter ego

(Or so sez my oh-so-reliable Facebook quiz)

So you may be a little bossy but its only because you lack the control of your awesome leadership abilities. You love to be right and clean. You are pretty and know it and some times it can get to your head but you are faithful and consistent every time. Some may say your crabby and mean and this may be something you wish to work on in the future.

Oh how true ...

a day out in Largs

Largs- it feels like it is missing a syllable in its name.   (Largstown? Largston? Largshire?)

But we took a wee train trip there Sunday to celebrate the miracle of All Day Sunshine in the west of Scotland. Small town custom built for kids playing, dogs running, couples and old people strolling, ice cream licking, and sea gazing.  It is amazing that in a little over an hour's time out of Glasgow, you can be in a very un-urban world.  Is reassuring.  

Four years

I just looked at the calendar. Four years ago to the DAY I arrived in the UK.

I remember with painful clarity my harrowed plea at the immigration desk at Heathrow.
My whole life was ahead of me. The new life I chose.

And since then, I've worked for that life.

New career doing something I am compelled to do, which feels so right.
Marriage to the man I love and was compelled to never give up on, which feels so right.

I count my blessings today and give myself a bit of a pat on the back. I know how hard it was to get here. And I also know how easy it was too.

And today, Mark & I have the Big Flip charts out ... plotting our course and dreaming and conjuring up what's next.

Anything still seems possible.

though the years

Try it. Is a hoot.

yearbookyourself.com

a lot of pacing

So I have been kinda absent from here. 

I blame many things.

1. facebook and its damned easily accessible, updateable and addictive status updates
2. laziness
3. restlessness
4. too much to say
5. nothing to say
6. inertia
7. silence
8. play
9. distraction

And now it is time to pull the finger out so to speak.  Tomorrow I start the Glasgow LIFE CLUB. (Insert wild applause here)

I am excited and nervous and also again excited. It is putting my money where my mouth has been for a while and I am thrilled to be actually walking the talk a bit more.

So, here is where I put my intention for myself and for the group.

I really want to show up 100% fully me.  I want transparency and full permission to try stuff and fail and stay.  It is my leadership stake.  

I want to create a safe, fun and easy space where people can take their brain off and stay a while.  And have a rest from the pace and masks they wear in the 'real' world and get to just breathe and take the time to ponder what they want more of.  And along they way, they get to meet other kind folks in their similar boat. I want them to come away with possibilities of what life can be. 

Now to get all my particles in a row. And decide what to wear!

Happy Me Day!

Here's a taste of Life Clubs...

The good Life Club folks have chosen the third Sunday in September each year to be Me Day. This year it’s Sunday September 21st.

Since many people don't (YET!) have access to a Life Club, we wanted to treat you and everyone else to a taster of what our clubbers experience weekly.

To celebrate this day, Life Clubs has created a special Happy Me Day card for you. Print one off and recognise how unique and important you are.

You can also download a Happy Me Day workshop which is a fun way to discover and celebrate you.

We think that Me Day is the perfect excuse to have your friends round for a catch-up and do the workshop together. To make it easier we have also designed invitations that you can send out to anyone you’d like to share your Me Day with. The invitations include a quiz for you and your friends to fill in.

Me Day is a great day to take time to think about the most important person in your life – you.

Happy Me Day to you all.

R3

Dear readers, 

A caveat - this posting will only make sense to my fellow porcupines.

I find R3 the least explainable and the most altering. 

• the Doh room remaining the Deer rooms (and all was well)
• bury your weapons
• the fragrant orange liquid 
• Mother Tree send off
• Lisa/Andy meals to fortify and savour
• marbles/balls/web
• Kenry
• when does something become nothing and nothing become something
• Open Mike
• silence
• floating hands
• blankets in nature
• being with
• unintended and intended impact
• reading the level 3
• Shooting Stars - the pod and  up in the sky
• hearts cracking
• hearts shattering
• feedback that serves
• molecules reordered
• focusing on the space not trying to avoid the particles
• Unconditional Positive Regard UPR
• Interact with the divinity and leave space for the Junk
• tantrum yoga
• the new myth
• tacking - always failing in the direction you are going
• bio directional
• arcus interuuptus, arcus prolongus and arcus justrightus
• Charm Training Institute- the new CTI
• rule of 3s
• Take the Room
• quest
• responsible for your impact

• what will serve the space?
• exploring the range
• soul type 8
• 9 gold metals
• and yes, the shit in the pool!

highlights of DC August

Sinead comes to GlasVegas

Willow Tea Rooms, with the Charles Rennie Mackintosh chairs

The Apartment for lunch with the Edinburgh gang and the rainy day castle

living on purpose- the workshop review

Well, I officially have a Co Active Lead under my belt. And it felt great. Our workshop on Saturday was well populated with friends and families of Hanna and my smiling face of Miri in the crowd, and we even attracted about 4 'real' people  from the regular world.

Everything abut it -- the design leading up, the organizing the particles and the running the workshop felt natural, easy and grand. I truly felt like I was having a peak experience at the front of the room.  Sure, we have things we would tweak in the content if we did it again. But the real meat of Hanna & I creating from other and connecting and 100/100 felt terrific and safe and possible. 

The space (thank you Miri!) at the Quarry Arts Center in Madison was ideal -- a clean, cool yoga space with good lighting and a smooth feel. And all the yogic paraphernalia for comfort - blankets, bolsters, and bare feet, setting the scene for relaxed and easy. 

I fell in love with co active leadership on my very first coaching course in 2004.  They way the leaders hold the space, the leaders being so organic and easy, the learning complete with lots of space for things to show up.  It is a way of being with yourself, your co leader and your group that is full and sets off sparks.  

And I feel a sense of stretch and learning and leaning in.  It feels good and strong and hugely fulfilling. 

I have so much to learn -- I am just tasting the very teeny tip of the spoon.  The banquet is vast and abundant and I am hungry. 

midwestern highlights (sorry about the poppyseed, G)

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